I love my partner but … I do not want to live with her!
Cohabitation is not an easy task. Whether with friends, family or partner, joint life in an apartment or house always has some details that bother us and can affect relationships. All these these, perhaps the most significant is the domestic partnership, not because it is more important than living with a friend, but because socially represents a breakthrough in their personal lives.
Thus, there is the idea that when a couple takes certain amount of time together, the next step is: get married or live together. But in this equation comes a new factor is the fact that not all people want to live as a couple, preferring to reserve your space until the time of marriage, or rupture if things are not going well. In fact, a survey conducted in the UK revealed that out of a population of 2.2 million people who are in a stable, committed relationship, 23 percent live in separate houses, whether because the circumstances were that way or because it was a joint decision.
How is this? Simple. Often couples decide to move into an apartment together for the reasons wrong, the most frequent saving money. Large cities have high costs relative to income, and although they vary considerably depending on the area where you are, the reality is that the real estate scenario encourages young people to make these decisions without much reflection or analysis. In addition, live together not only reduces expenses in the income department, but also in transportation, taxes and food.
Aware that coexistence can be a hasty, impulsive and little analyzed decision today couples tend to stay at home each organizing frequent meetings and travel together without the need to share the same space. And this is a trend that is increasing, not only in young courtships but more followers on couples made up of individuals who have gone through a marriage and go for the second round.
Each individual has little ways of being or act when you are in the safety of your home, and often such intimate details not shown when shared time with the couple.
On the other hand, live apart generates anticipation of the possibility of any meeting, out to dinner or visit the park. Allows individuals wonder, and prepare for each event as if it were the first, get ready for your partner and set aside the routine wakes running pants and washed face without makeup.
But the strongest and most resonates reason is independence. Couples who decide to live apart until life takes them walking down the aisle, do so because they want to preserve their independence daily and have an escape route when things are not going quite right or was some discussion.
The latter is most often seen on couples made up of individuals who have come out of a divorce; They have enviudado; or already have families, have grown children and even grandchildren perhaps. This demographic group often decides not to mix so many people in the same living space, and prefer that everyone has their own space to share with your children or grandchildren.
The truth is that these people already were in love and lived this freedom, happiness and insouciance that gives in love; and experienced marriage, and now just they want to relive the feeling of being free and being in love, without adding complications.
In other cases, one of the two comes from having a long and painful relationship, and is not prepared to place in your home for one more person, or even commit a hundred percent on the link. Each person is different and their life history help making such decisions.
Do you live or not live? That is the question. Whatever the answer will be correct if both believe that is the way to go, so be it live separately or together and reveal the mysteries of everyday life.
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